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We deeply regret that lawmakers in our state have been unable to reach a budget compromise and instead have chosen to eliminate funding for organizations like the Meadows. The lack of money will have a dramatic impact on the lives of the most vulnerable among us. Many nonprofits will be forced to close. Tragically that will create significant job losses for men and women with intellectual and physical challenges.

We all know how difficult it is for people with developmental disabilities to find meaningful employment. The fact that they are losing what could be the only job they will ever have is heartbreaking for them and their families. So much time and effort have been expended helping them succeed in the workplace that it is infuriating to see those jobs eliminated in such a cold and calculated way.

Our hearts go out to organizations around the state who are facing the severe consequences of having their funding stripped away. We wish them the best and hope that they can find a way to survive financially so that the people they employ will not suffer.

Thankfully, the Meadows has been blessed with a management team that had the foresight and wisdom to prepare for such an unfortunate eventuality. Our Board of Directors, our Executive Director James Hill and our Vice President of Operations David Potter have worked tirelessly to prepare the Meadows to withstand the loss of government funding.

The road ahead will not be easy, but every one of the men and women we employ will remain with our organization. There will be no lost jobs, and wages will not be cut. Going forward, it will be business as usual at the Meadows.

To our more than three thousand customers statewide, we want to assure you that there will be no disruption in the services that we offer. You can continue to rely on our organization to provide you with the same secure shredding that you have come to count on. And we want to take this opportunity to thank you for doing business with us because it is your continued support through the years that has allowed us to remain financially stable.

To our workers and their families, we want you to know that we appreciate how you have always stood with us and now we will stand with you, by continuing to do everything in our power to provide a secure employment future for all of our employees.

The Meadows has always been a place of opportunity, and most importantly, a place of hope. We are not going to let political decisions change that.

For thirty-five years, The Meadows Center for Opportunity has served the employment needs of men and women with intellectual and physical challenges. During that time, the state has been an important financial partner in allowing us to fulfill our mission of providing work and vocational training to adults who otherwise would not have the chance to have a job.

Because we are a nonprofit, the compensation we receive each month from the state helps offset our operational costs as well as the salaries that are paid to our workers.

However, the state’s current budget crisis has created a difficult situation for organizations like ours as lawmakers are forced to make hard decisions that could adversely affect thousands of citizens with developmental disabilities.

To present a clear picture of what is at stake, we would like to introduce you to some of the people we currently employ. In each case, their particular disability is listed last, because it is the least important part of who they are.

* This person has limited range of motion in their arms and legs, as well as visual impairment, which puts them at risk for frequent falls. However, these challenges do not stop them from enjoying every moment of their day. Their outgoing nature and love of people make everyone a potential friend. This individual has a developmental disability.  

* This person has held down a steady job for more than twenty-five years, despite the fact that they sometimes have multiple seizures in a single day. Although their seizure activity sometimes scares them and leaves them feeling vulnerable, they continue to remain active despite the knowledge that they could have a medical emergency at any moment. This individual has epilepsy.

* This person spent many years living in an institution, but now they have successfully made the transition to living in a group home in the community. They enjoy their personal freedom and sense of independence. They have made friends, and they participate in many different activities that were previously denied to them. This individual has a developmental disability. 

* This person has the use of one arm. They also have an issue with their leg that requires them to use an assistive device to maintain their balance. Over time, they have developed their own unique ways of adapting to their physical challenges so they can accomplish many of the tasks required in daily living. This individual has a traumatic brain injury. 

* This person is medically fragile. Although their health is a constant issue, they do not allow it to keep them from remaining positive and upbeat. They attempt to make the most of each day by enjoying the things that are important to them, as they continue to live a life filled with hope. This individual has a developmental disability. 

* This person embraces life with tremendous humor and joy. They are a bundle of energy, constantly in motion and never slowing down. With their over the top personality, they delight in being the center of attention and entertaining everyone around them. They make others feel good because they are genuine, with no pretense. This individual has had a stroke.

* This person uses assistive devices to help with their mobility as well as hearing aids that allow them to communicate and interact. Together, these appliances facilitate their participation in the community and in activities they enjoy sharing with their family and friends. It is the feeling of inclusion that matters most to them. This individual has a developmental disability.

* This person has a great sense of humor and loves to kid around and play practical jokes. The fact that their speech can be difficult to understand, does not inhibit their ability to connect with others. They are able to find clever ways to convey their thoughts, ideas, and opinions – whatever the situation. This individual has cerebral palsy.  

* This person has endured multiple health issues, including heart surgery. At this time they are possibly facing yet another medical condition, but they continue to do all of the things that have meaning for them. Their love of art and the fulfillment they find in being creative helps them face their daily challenges. This individual has Down syndrome.

* This person does not like to sit still and would rather be up and moving around. They have a profound love for all things related to Disney, and they have a deep fascination with music and dancing. They prefer to interact with others by communicating in repetitive conversations that make them feel comfortable. This individual has autism.

* This person is not always aware of what is real and what is not. However, that does not mean that they are incapable of enjoying the experiences that actually occur in their lives. Although they can sometimes be confused, it does not keep them from engaging with others in ways that are important to them. This individual has a developmental disability.

* This person has challenges with their balance, motor skills, and vision. However, they do not let those issues deter them from being kind and compassionate to everyone they meet. Because of the thoughtfulness and consideration, they share with others, they have a thriving social life with many friends. This individual has had a brain tumor.

These are just a few of the extraordinary men and women we are currently able to employ, due in part, to the funding we receive from the state.

Although each one of these individuals deals with issues that make their life considerably more complicated than the lives of most citizens, it does not prevent them from holding down a meaningful job that gives them a deep sense of fulfillment.

Each weekday, no matter what challenges they face, they come to work and perform their assigned duties to the best of their abilities. Having that opportunity not only allows them to earn a paycheck, it also helps them reach their full potential.

None of these people are trying to be courageous or inspirational. They are just living their lives, day to day, in the particular circumstances they happen to be in. The fact that they need assistance and financial support to maintain their employment makes no difference. It does not diminish the effort they put forth or the results they achieve.

What our employees are able to accomplish is the result of their perseverance and determination. It is their commitment to achieve the extraordinary that makes them successful.

In return, we must show the same commitment to them. We owe them our best efforts to ensure that they have the necessary funding to allow them to be successfully employed.

However, as we look towards the future, the mission of the Meadows is at risk. We want to continue to offer meaningful employment in a safe and supportive environment to as many adults with disabilities as possible - but to do that on a large scale requires uninterrupted state funding.

Ultimately, Oklahoma’s budget crisis is a test of moral character. How we choose to respond to the needs of vulnerable citizens is a reflection of the kind of society we want to have.

For our elected officials, the current financial shortfall provides the perfect opportunity to show true leadership by putting the needs of men and women with intellectual and physical challenges ahead of petty politics. The decisions they ultimately make will touch the lives of our employees and their families, in profound ways.

It is critical that state lawmakers look within themselves and find the courage to care.

The regrettable state of politics in our nation is a concern for all of us. Unfortunately, many people do not take the actions, or lack of action, by elected officials seriously – until it suddenly affects them personally. But if we allow ourselves to step back and look at the bigger picture, we can see that political decisions impact all of our lives in profound ways.

This is particularly true for citizens with developmental disabilities who rely on the government to act in their best interest regarding their health and safety.

The level of responsibility that elected officials have to protect the welfare of those who are at risk cannot be overstated. When politicians act irresponsibly it is typically those who are vulnerable that suffer the most.

Obviously, it is easy to do the right thing when there is plenty of money. Funding the vital programs that make a difference to people who depend on them to maintain quality of life is not a challenge.

But it becomes a far different matter when there are difficult choices that must be made because there are fewer dollars to go around. But these are the decisions that must be made by the men and women who willingly seek to hold office during both good times and bad.

Although the government rarely embraces budgetary responsibility, we should, at the very least, be able to expect those who represent us to spend the funds available in the most thoughtful, beneficial way.

Budget constraints are never easy. Hard choices have to be made. But there must be careful consideration given to financial cutbacks that are aimed at those who too often do not have a political voice to express their concern and their outrage.

The needs of an individual with a developmental disability should receive the same attention as those of any other person. But instead, they often become faceless collateral damage in the eyes of some legislators who are not concerned about the suffering that results from poor planning and mismanagement. The fact that innocent lives are adversely affected in serious ways does not move them. Their dispassionate approach to meeting basic human needs is disturbing, and, in many ways, their innate sense of right and wrong is compromised, leaving them with the inability to feel empathy for those who are at risk.

To target a group because they might be less likely to understand what is happening or because they struggle to stand up for themselves is immoral at the least and actually cruel in many cases. That is why those of us who care about people with intellectual challenges must be willing to advocate on their behalf.

Cutting funding for the programs that individuals with developmental disabilities depend on, demonstrates a clear lack of compassion, a possible lack of character and a complete lack of knowledge regarding the long struggle that these men and women have waged to lead fulfilling and rewarding lives.

To have this progress stopped and reversed is unacceptable. There can be no justifiable explanation for hurting those who innocently trust political leaders to provide them with the support they require.

Unfortunately, some elected officials view constituents with developmental disabilities as less important than other citizens. Some of them believe that people with intellectual challenges are not likely to follow the issues or to vote. Therefore, they are not considered to be a critical part of their political base.

But even if those assumptions are true – it doesn’t matter.

People with developmental disabilities are equal citizens under the law, and they deserve complete representation, just like anyone else.

When a person is voted into political office there is a trust placed in that individual that they will look after the rights and concerns of all their constituents. When that faith is not kept, the trust is broken. Once that occurs, it is often difficult, if not impossible, to repair. When a politician demonstrates their willingness to take advantage of those who do not have the ability or resources to defend their rights, we move in a perilous direction that can do irrevocable harm to society.

That is why it is imperative that elected officials govern with a sense of fairness that is guided by human decency. They have an obligation to embrace change in a way that does not leave some behind. They must look to the future while respecting the efforts made in the past by groups fighting against injustice.

If a political figure cannot meet that criteria they do not deserve to continue to hold office.

Elected officials must understand that they have an opportunity that few have. They have the ability to create laws that govern the lives of others. They can affect change, both positive and negative, with their votes on legislation. They can improve everything from living conditions to educational opportunities. They can ensure that people have adequate and affordable health care.

The men and women who hold political office, wield power that people with developmental disabilities do not possess. Therefore they can have a profound effect on the lives of individuals who are depending on them to make fair decisions. This is a responsibility that must be taken seriously. It is their duty to protect those in society who can be exploited or taken advantage of. To do otherwise is a form of neglect that cannot be tolerated.

In our political system, every person has the same rights. Every person deserves to be heard and understood. Every person deserves representation. Every person is equal.

That means that people who are vulnerable cannot be pushed aside just because it is inconvenient to make the effort to assist them. They cannot be marginalized because it requires funding to give them the support they require to live a rewarding life.

Whether at the state or federal level, the men and women we elect to serve us have the obligation to do exactly that. A political life should be one of service, particularly to those who need assistance so they can participate fully in society.

Governing is not about passing laws that benefit a particular special interest. It’s not about catering to campaign contributors. It’s not about giving preferential treatment to those who lead lives of privilege and prestige.

Governing is about ensuring people’s safety and well-being in all demographics. It’s about creating the opportunities that allow people to move forward with their lives. It’s about making a positive difference for those who entrusted you with power.

Elected officials must treat all of the people they represent with dignity and respect – and that includes individuals with developmental disabilities.

Compassion should always come before cost.

Because we employ individuals with developmental disabilities, the staff of the Meadows is frequently told that the work we do is “inspiring”. The people who pay us this particular compliment are just being kind. They mean well, and we appreciate that. However, the truth is, we are just average men and women who have chosen this field and who are doing our best to assist those with intellectual and physical challenges, while at the same time earning a pay check. We are nothing more or less.

It is the same with the adults we employ. Although they have significant issues that can make their daily lives more difficult in a variety of ways, they are still just people who are doing the best they can to live their lives to the fullest. They want to be understood and accepted for who they are as a person. They do not want to be thought of exclusively in terms of their disability.

When they come to work, just as in other areas of their lives, they are not trying to inspire anyone. They are not attempting to be heroic. They are not making a conscience effort to be courageous. They are not being anything other than themselves. They are just a person who happens to have Down syndrome, epilepsy, autism, cerebral palsy or any number of other conditions that human beings live with.

You only have to spend a small amount of time with them to realize that they do not focus on their circumstances. They consider themselves to be sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, friends, employees, coworkers, citizens - just about anything other than a person with a disability. We are the ones who limit them by believing their challenges hold them back. We are the ones who think their IQ score defines them. We are the ones who see the diagnosis instead of the person.

We are the problem.

The adults we employ spend their lives dealing with the myths and misconceptions that many people continue to embrace concerning intellectual challenges. The erroneous belief that they can’t learn, can’t work or can’t lead full lives, creates significant stumbling blocks to achieving those very things.

So, when someone encounters a person with a disability holding down a job, they see a man or woman who has exceeded the low expectations of society. Therefore, they feel inspired as they appreciate an accomplishment that was wrongly assumed to be impossible.

Obviously, living with a disability is something a human being has no choice in. It happens, you deal with it, and you live your life. But when others make it the focal point of your existence, it adds an unnecessary burden that causes misunderstanding and bias. This happens, not because of the person’s disability, but rather because of our response to it. Our behavior towards those individuals is a result of our failure to accept them as a person because we mistakenly consider them only in terms of their diagnosis.

But when we learn to think of them as complete human beings, we no longer expect them to inspire us.

Each of us is a complex mixture of intellect and emotion that combine to create the individual personalities that make us unique. We are not one dimensional beings. We are not defined by one single aspect of our humanity. Therefore, it is not right to judge people based solely on their disabilities. They are far more than their particular challenges.

The fact that we need to find them inspiring is a reflection of our thinking. Either our feelings are couched in a sense of guilt because we perceive our lives to be easier and to require less effort, or we believe these individuals are bravely trying to be like those who do not have challenges. That assumption, whether we will admit it or not, is based on our opinion that we are superior to them. Although it may not be intentional, such an attitude is, none the less, demeaning.

While it is true that people with disabilities want the same things in life that everyone else does, that doesn’t mean they are comparing themselves to others. So why do we feel like we have the right to engage in comparisons?

No one expects you to be inspiring, so it is not fair to expect inspiration from someone with a disability. They are human beings, which means they will sometimes fail. They will make mistakes, and they will behave in ways that are not appropriate for a particular situation. That is what we all do. Why should they be held to a higher standard than the rest of us? Why should they be expected to move us emotionally, when we ourselves often struggle to make it through our day?

Feeling inspired is fleeting and it only makes us feel temporarily good. But when we treat a person with a developmental disability the way we should, it makes everyone involved feel great, and it provides long lasting benefits.

The undeniable truth is that no one is superior or inferior. That is why it would be so much better for all of us if we would accept each other as we are, no matter what our challenges.

A person with a developmental disability does not want us to be inspired by the fact they are living their life. They want us to treat them as an equal so they can live the life they deserve.

Each day, through our constant exposure to television, newspapers and social media, we are buried under an avalanche of bad news. From the moment we start our day, until we turn off the light at night, we endure an onslaught of negative stories about people hurting and mistreating each other in heartbreaking ways. We are steadily worn down by the worst behavior that mankind engages in, to the point where it becomes easy to believe that the world is an evil place and that there is little hope that we can change it - but that is not the truth.

The reason humanity has survived is because, throughout history, good has always triumphed over bad.

Always.

Even during the darkest of times, good has ultimately prevailed. That is because we tend to be our own worst enemy, which means that most of our suffering is self-inflicted. Therefore, we always have the ability to change our actions and behaviors for the better.

However, it is quite easy to be swept up in the pessimism and despair that results from continually seeing human beings act without a sense of right and wrong. That’s why it is important to not allow the offensive news reports to overwhelm us.

One of the best ways of doing that is to make a concerted effort to pay attention to the good that happens all around us. If we will open our eyes and seek out the positive, we’ll be amazed by the multitude of quiet acts of consideration, kindness and compassion that are performed, without fanfare or public acknowledgement, by both individuals and groups of people.

But just because the positive acts do not receive the same level of attention as the negative stories, does not mean they are less powerful. On the contrary, they are proof that, no matter what our race, gender, nationality, political persuasion, religious faith or disability, our humanity is defined by the way we treat each other.

Recently there was a moment of clarity that put that fact in the proper perspective. It occurred several weeks ago as I was watching a television news story about the Special Olympics Winter World Games that took place in Austria.

As the report focused on the love, friendship and good will that was shared by the competing athletes, the news scrolled along the bottom of the screen, just like always, describing murders, violent crimes, brutality, cruelty and all of the other reprehensible behavior that human beings are capable of.

The stark contrast was compelling because it showed the best of humanity superimposed over the worst of our nature. But it was impossible not to be moved, because the smiling faces of the athletes were far more powerful than the bleak headlines.

We must remember that the only reason the negative stories we see on TV are considered news is because they are not the norm. The events they depict are an aberration. For every violent criminal, there are millions of people who lead compassionate lives.

That is why when good people join together as a group to support a cause they believe in, such as Special Olympics, they become an unstoppable positive force.

And that includes a nonprofit like ours.

In our particular case, the way in which the Meadows makes a difference is evident when a potential client, along with their family or guardian, visits our facility for a job interview. Typically, they are given a tour of our 42,000 square foot building. As they move through the different work areas, they get to see men and women, up close, performing their jobs. They see people with disabilities accomplishing tasks that many would not think possible. But because of the training and assistance we are able to provide, they are successfully employed in a safe and supportive environment. As they watch others working, the individual begins to think that maybe they could do the same thing. As the tour continues, you can see the look of hope that comes over the faces of their family. For possibly the first time in their lives, the parents begin to believe that their child could have the meaningful job they have always deserved.

Thankfully, there are countless corporations, businesses and organizations across America that are having a significant impact on their communities. Some of these entities are large and well known. Others, like ours, are smaller and receive less attention. But that doesn’t matter. All that’s important is that they are putting people’s needs ahead of the bottom line. They are using their influence to benefit society.

The Meadows is honored to join with all the other enterprises throughout the nation who attempt to make life better for everyone.

Our organization is proud to be on the side of good.

POSTSCRIPT:

During the writing of this essay, an event occurred at the Meadows which proved the point I’ve tried to make. One afternoon, an individual appeared at our place of business, unannounced, to give us a financial donation. This person, who we did not know, walked into our lobby and presented our Executive Director with a check for ten thousand dollars.

Although acts of kindness certainly do not have to be financial in nature, this is a powerful example of one person’s incredible thoughtfulness and generosity. It is a perfect reminder that there are good people all around us.

The large room is located near the front of our facility. It has sixteen long tables and can comfortably seat sixty people. Mounted on a wall are three computer stations that are used to clock people in and out. On one side of the room there are eight microwaves, and on the other side is a water fountain. Three of the four walls are lined with lockers, but there are no locks because there is trust.

This expansive open area is our break room, and it is the heart of the Meadows. Because our building is over 42,000 square feet, divided into six major sections, it is the one place where everyone comes together at the same time. It is where each day begins and ends.

Work is an important aspect of every person’s life and the individuals we employ are no different. Although they have intellectual and physical challenges, they arrive each day and perform their assigned tasks to the best of their ability. When they are not working, they spend time in this room where they share their job experiences as well as other aspects of their lives. Their interactions are open and sincere. The conversations can be hilarious or quite serious. It is the chance to connect with their peers who have many of the same interests.

What takes place in this room is meaningful. People look forward to their time together, and the happiness and fun that is shared is important to them. It is where they have lunch and take their breaks. It is where people enjoy each other’s company and relax. They listen to music, they play on their phones, they read, they work puzzle books and a variety of card games are always in full swing. This is where birthdays are celebrated and where pizza parties are held.

But it is more than just a place to have fun. Meetings are held in this room with staff, parents and guardians. Facts and information are disseminated here. People gather to discuss issues and to find solutions to problems. It is where possibilities are discussed and plans are developed. It is where presentations are made and awards are handed out. It’s where hopes and dreams are expressed and nurtured. It provides a setting for everyone to share their thoughts and opinions on subjects that have meaning for the people we employ.

Because these men and women have a wide range of intellectual and physical challenges, we work closely with parents and guardians to ensure the safety and well-being of their loved ones. But the employees themselves demonstrate tremendous regard for each other. On a wall in the break room there is a large dry erase board where the names of individuals who are absent each day are listed. Without fail, people gather around that board each morning worried that someone is sick or something is wrong that is not allowing them to be there. Each day they need reassurance that these people will soon be back to work. The people in this place care about each other. They look out for each other. Their concern is real and genuine.

That is because there is also a serious side to what happens in this place. Along with the celebration and enjoyment, there is also the reality of the lives we serve. Despite every precaution, individuals with severe balance issues have fallen. People who have difficulty swallowing have gotten choked while eating. While relaxing in our break room, individuals sometimes have seizures or other health concerns. But it is because of where they are that their immediate needs can be met. They are employed at a facility that has the training and knowledge to assist them when they have a medical issue. Their safety and well-being is the number one priority when they are at work.

Everything that happens in this room, is a reflection of the right of men and women with developmental disabilities to be employed. Every individual that spends time here is important. Their life matters. This room creates a feeling of family. It generates a sense of belonging and togetherness. It allows people to experience acceptance and understanding without judgment. They feel at ease, and they can be themselves. Each worker knows they are appreciated and valued as a person because they are treated with dignity and respect. It’s where friendships are born and sustained. It is where memories are made.

Late in the day, after everyone has gone home, our break room reverts back to a large empty space. The stillness is in stark contrast to the boisterous commotion that takes place during work hours. Each night when the lights are turned off, it is impossible not to think back to some of the moments that were remarkable and to begin looking forward to the next day when the men and women we employ will once again fill the room with their laughter, enthusiasm and joy.

The Meadows Center for Opportunity was established in 1983 for the sole purpose of employing adults with developmental disabilities. It has been our privilege to work with many different men and women through the years, and we are honored that some of these individuals are still working with us, more than three decades later.

Please stop and think about that for a moment. Have you remained at a job you love for that length of time? Few of us have. In fact, some people hate their jobs, and can’t wait to leave them. But that is not the case with our nonprofit. Almost everyone we hire stays for a significant amount of time.

That is why, after thirty-four years of making a positive difference in the lives of so many, it is both frustrating and discouraging to be informed by the government that what we are doing as an organization has no value.

We are being repeatedly told that, in their opinion, providing people with jobs and vocational training in a closely monitored, safe environment is not important and not desirable. The government believes that rather than building on the success of organizations like the Meadows, it is preferable for that type of employment to fade away so that people with developmental disabilities are forced to compete for jobs in the community. That scenario means a few individuals will find work - but the majority will not.

Because we all care about people with challenges, we enjoy seeing the heartwarming articles about individuals with developmental disabilities being employed in community jobs. But for each person in one of those stories, there are countless others who will never share that experience. Does that mean we are supposed to cast them aside and say they are not worth employing? Should we give up because their needs are more intense or serious? Are we willing to walk away from men and women who want to work, and who deserve to work, just because they don’t have the physical or mental capabilities that will allow them to be employed in demanding or pressure filled situations?

Many of the people we hire, struggle with simple tasks. They struggle with their focus and their ability to concentrate. They struggle with their memory, and they struggle with their emotions as they try to control behaviors that would not be tolerated in a typical job. Others have health issues that most employers are not trained to deal with and do not want to take responsibility for. We also have individuals who attempted to work in the community, but who eventually turned to us for a meaningful job.

But despite the struggles, challenges and issues that our employees live with, they are able to work because we provide the assistance they need. 

That is why, despite what the government thinks, we believe successful employment can occur in either the community or in a facility like ours.

It is our point of view that - when a person feels a sense of accomplishment, develops self-esteem and self-confidence, has the chance to reach their full potential, is respected and treated with dignity and, most importantly, when they are accepted for who they are as a person - they experience the dignity of work.

Based on that criteria, when a person is employed at the Meadows, no matter how minimal their job skills might be, they are successful.

However, we are continually being told by the government that the employment we offer is not necessary and not appropriate.  

We disagree.

Certainly it is true that, for some people, being employed in the community can be a perfect fit. But for many others, it does not work. So what are those men and women supposed to do? If facilities like the Meadows are no longer a viable option, it will be the very individuals who need additional support that will suffer the most.

In regard to their present job prospects, as well as those in the future, we are doing a great disservice to people with developmental disabilities if we do not approach the subject of their employment realistically.

We all wish that employers would offer forty hours a week, at minimum wage or better, to every person with an intellectual challenge - no matter how slowly they work, no matter how many mistakes they make or how often they have health related issues on the job. But that is not reality. And if we pretend that is, we are setting up our friends and loved ones to fail.

Therefore, it is critical that organizations like the Meadows are allowed to continue to offer employment to adults who, for whatever reasons, are not able to work in the community. Those individuals still have the right to have a job. They should have the chance to maximize their strengths and abilities while they learn new skills. They deserve to earn a paycheck. These men and women, who would otherwise remain unemployed, depend on us to provide opportunity and hope.

That is a responsibility we will not give up. 

Love is the most powerful force there is because it brings people together in a way that nothing else can. Without it, humanity could not survive. Fortunately, the world is blessed with many different types of love. There is the romantic attraction shared by two people. There is the affection that results from deep friendship. And there is the deep and abiding love that dwells in a family, particularly parental love for their children. All of these produce intense feelings that create a willingness to focus on someone else’s needs.

However, the most powerful form of love is when it’s unconditional.

In the world of intellectual challenges there is absolutely nothing more important than unconditional love. Whether it is a developmental disability, a traumatic brain injury, dementia, a brain tumor, a stroke or some other kind of disease or disorder, these individuals can be vulnerable and at risk. Their welfare, out of necessity, is usually entrusted to family members who do everything in their power to ensure the lives of their loved ones are fulfilling and meaningful, and that they are treated with dignity and respect.

The true potential of unconditional love is evidenced by all of the positive benefits it provides to another person. It ensures that they are cared for, valued and appreciated. It supports and nurtures them so that their lives are richer and more rewarding. It transforms attitudes and beliefs which can erase negative feelings and heal broken relationships. This form of all-encompassing devotion provides assurance that there will always be someone they can count on when they feel alone, excluded or forgotten.

Being loved unconditionally gives a person a feeling of self-worth because it allows them to freely express who they are without the fear of rejection. It gives them a sense of belonging, by allowing them to experience acceptance. There is no need for them to pretend to be something they are not. It’s okay to be real, to feel insecure and to experience fear and uncertainty. It lets a person know they can fail without being considered inferior. It embraces the individual no matter what their flaws. They are not forced to live up to arbitrary expectations, because unconditional love is not based on what someone can do, it is based on who someone is.

The intense desire to be loved unconditionally cannot be measured. It is craved for the beautiful way that it forgives and does not hold a grudge. It is treasured for its ability to comfort as it envelopes an individual with understanding instead of judgment. It is coveted because of its power to remain steadfast in good times and in bad, standing shoulder to shoulder with a person no matter what the circumstances. It is embraced tightly because it is eternal. Unconditional love never waivers, and it never gives up. It is life affirming, sharing hope and encouragement in the darkest hours, and providing warmth against the cold harshness of reality.

To be the recipient of unconditional love is to receive one of life’s greatest gifts. But, unfortunately, many are not so fortunate. There are those who desperately need that kind of attention and acknowledgement, but it is never offered. They go through life without ever experiencing the joy and peace that comes from knowing that somebody cares deeply about them and will always be there for them. When that type of relationship is not present, it creates an emptiness that is impossible to ignore. There is always something missing, and a person does not feel complete.

On the other hand, many people, at one point, had someone in their life that showered them with unconditional love, but death tragically swept them away. That kind of profound loss creates a level of grief that hurts the very core of our being because we not only miss the person’s physical presence, we also miss the way they made us feel.

Unconditional love is demonstrated in countless ways, however, the purest form is when it’s shared without the expectation of having it returned. When someone in your life has experienced a traumatic brain injury and no longer recognizes those who were important to them, the love you have for that person is unconditional. When a parent has a child with an intellectual challenge who does not interact with those around them, there is the possibility that their love may never be returned in a demonstrative way. When someone cares about a person who is in the grips of dementia and no longer remembers the people they were close to, the love they feel for them may no longer be returned. In such cases, the love is not based on the condition that it be visibly reciprocated, but rather the commitment that is shared is total, complete and without end.

On both an intellectual and emotional level, the profound life changing quality of unconditional love transcends our ability to fully understand it.

The family dynamic is one of the most important aspects of our society. Under the best of circumstances it is a delicate balance, however, when one of the members is dealing with an intellectual challenge it can alter the structure significantly. It is firmly established that the parental relationship is crucial in the life of any child, and the support and encouragement of all family members is essential in building self-confidence and self-esteem. However, when there is a disability involved, the bond between siblings becomes extraordinarily important.

Initially that bond can be fragile and strained. Children who have a brother or sister with a developmental disability are often given additional responsibilities that their peers do not have. They sometimes, out of necessity, receive less attention due to the demands placed on the parents to care for the intellectual and physical needs of a child who has serious issues that require their focus. The other children in the family are sometimes called upon to make sacrifices and compromises. They are often expected to be a role model and to set an example, whether they want to or not. Their wants, needs and desires sometimes have to take second place to the medical considerations of their brother or sister.

All of these factors can cause friction to develop. The inevitable sibling rivalry that occurs in all families can become more pronounced. Tensions are heightened as everyone feels the added pressures of raising a child with a developmental disability. This can cause jealousy and resentment, especially in younger children.

But as they get older, they begin to understand why their family frequently deals with certain situations that others don’t experience. Often they become very protective of their sibling with a disability. They become helpers and they assist in a variety of ways that ease the responsibilities that were previously handled exclusively by their parents.

There is a strong emotional component to having a family member with an intellectual challenge. How does a younger sibling feel when they realize they have passed their brother or sister in reading skills, math skills, and vocabulary? It happens gradually but there is a point when it becomes evident to them that they have progressed beyond their sibling. Although it may not make sense to them at first, they soon discover that it does not affect their love and devotion to that person.

Unfortunately, when someone grows up with a brother or sister with an intellectual challenge they are sometimes exposed to the bias and narrow mindedness that people can have towards individuals with disabilities. These misconceptions are typically based on ignorance and a rush to judgment that is not based on facts. The misunderstanding, ridicule and rejection that a person with a disability can be subjected to only draws them closer to their sibling.

Throughout their lives, brothers and sisters are connected in a way that helps to define them as human beings. There is an unshakable bond that develops as they experience the good and bad in life together. For most of us, relationships come and go. People enter our lives, stay for a while and then, for whatever reason, they move on. But having a brother or sister lasts for a lifetime. No matter what happens, being a sibling never ends. That is why this particular relationship is so important to a person with a developmental disability. It offers stability and predictability. It creates a safety net of support that allows an individual to be themselves. It provides them with a sense of self-worth because they are treated as an equal.

For people who grow up in families where there are difficult challenges, their lives are altered in unexpected ways. Certainly there are frustrations and disappointments. That is to be expected anytime human beings are together under one roof. But there is also a profound depth of feeling that develops when one of them requires additional patience and understanding. It creates a situation where acceptance occurs without judgment.

Siblings of those with developmental disabilities have a personal perspective on the struggles and victories of their brother or sister. They see the concentration and perseverance that is required to perform certain tasks. They witness the tenacity that a person demonstrates as they battle challenges that could hold them back if they did not have the will and determination to overcome them. They see the joy and frustration that are equal parts of the learning experience.

Whether or not their sibling succeeds or fails at a particular endeavor, they are able to appreciate the effort that went into the attempt. If their brother or sister is successful, they share the pride in their accomplishment. And if they fail, they are there to support them and to encourage them to keep trying. They believe in their sibling, even when no one else does. They see them as complete human beings with the same rights as anyone else. They fight for their inclusion in society, and they make sure that their brother or sister is treated with dignity and respect.

For a person with an intellectual challenge, their siblings are among the most important people in their lives. They are their defenders, advocates and, in some cases, their legal guardians. For many of them they are the best friends they will ever have. They are the ones they look up to. They are the ones that they trust. They are the ones they give their hearts to.

Men and Women who grow up in families where there is a sibling with a developmental disability, experience a form of unconditional love that lasts a lifetime.

The Meadows is an organization far different than most. We are a thriving small business that was established in 1983. With more than three thousand customers statewide, we have developed a strong reputation for our professionalism and for consistently providing the highest quality work possible. But it is not our commitment to offering first rate service and customer satisfaction that sets us apart. The reason our success has so much meaning is because of who we employ.

The men and women who work for us have intellectual and physical challenges.

These conditions include: congenital developmental disabilities and those acquired after birth, autism, Down syndrome, Prader-Willi syndrome, vision loss, hearing loss, traumatic brain injury, brain tumors, strokes, epilepsy, cerebral palsy and more.

These individuals have spent their lives dealing with serious health issues that most people will never face. But despite those challenges, they arrive at our facility each morning with a positive attitude and spend the day displaying a terrific work ethic as they perform their jobs to the best of their abilities. Many of our employees are in their second and third decade with us, and the reason they have chosen to remain at the Meadows is because they know they are appreciated and valued, not for their job skills but for who they are as people.

Our concern for them as human beings means that we do everything possible to support them in dealing with their challenges. If they have communication issues we find a way to interact. If they have seizures, we are there to assist them. If they have to take an extended medical leave, they know their job will be waiting for them. If their physical skills deteriorate, we make adjustments for them. If there is a decline in their cognitive ability, we implement changes so they can continue to work safely.

As their employer, we are willing to make such accommodations because we believe that every person who wants to work should have a job.

However, in order for our organization to continue offering employment to individuals with disabilities, we need financial support from people like you.

That is why we accept contributions to assist us with our mission. Of course if we are going to ask you for a donation, we believe that you, as a potential contributor, have the right to know what your dollars will be used for. In the case of our organization, the money collected through our fundraiser is used to upgrade our equipment and to purchase new machinery. It allows us to replace our older vehicles. Your gift helps us maintain, repair and upgrade our facility. For example, we recently built an above ground storm shelter that can house seventy people. That construction project was made possible by donations from corporations, businesses, families and individuals.

But this list doesn’t begin to adequately explain the real power of a contribution. Although your generosity will be used to purchase material goods, the true value of your money is measured by the incredible human benefits that occur - and that makes your donation a gift of compassion.

Please take a moment and consider what your financial support provides. 

The money you donate creates hope by providing opportunity. The men and women we hire have often been denied the chance to work. They have either been left completely out of the job market or have not participated in steady employment.

Your donation creates a future for those whose pasts have been filled with roadblocks and setbacks. Too often individuals with disabilities are only told what they will not be able to do. There is little or no discussion of what might actually be possible. Your gift enables our employees to maximize their existing strengths and talents, while they develop new vocational skills that will benefit them throughout their life.

Your contribution allows people with intellectual and physical challenges to experience a sense of fulfillment when they are able to perform a job that has meaning for them. That creates a feeling of self-worth and a well-deserved sense of accomplishment that does not have a price tag.

Your money allows individuals to work in an atmosphere where friendships are created and maintained for decades. Their co-workers and the staff become like a second family to them. Their lives are richer and fuller because of the joy and happiness that results from these important long-term relationships.

But most importantly, your financial support allows men and women, who are often medically fragile, to work in an environment where their health and safety is monitored at all times. Because their well-being is our primary concern, we do everything in our power to provide an employment setting that is responsive to each person’s particular needs.

As you can see, your money does far more than just purchase tools, machinery and vehicles. It opens up a new world to someone who has never had the chance to be employed. It provides encouragement and support that helps vulnerable individuals raise their self-esteem and build self-confidence. It makes a difference in lives that might otherwise be ignored or marginalized. It creates a feeling of satisfaction and achievement when a person earns the first paycheck of their life. It touches human beings in a personal way which, in turn, has a positive influence on how society views people with disabilities.

Because the ramifications of your gift will last for years, your donation will not only help change the life of a person with an intellectual challenge, it will also have a significant effect on their family. The individual you help is someone’s son or daughter, and that means the difference you make in that person’s life carries over to those who love them. Parents get to realize the dream of employment for their child. Siblings are rightfully proud that the hard work and effort of their brothers and sisters has been rewarded. The sense of pride and accomplishment is something the entire family shares.

Whether or not you choose to make a financial donation to our organization ultimately depends on your personal beliefs. If you believe that everyone deserves an equal opportunity to be employed, if you believe in assisting those with serious challenges in their efforts to hold down a job, if you believe that every person has the right to be treated with dignity and respect - then hopefully you will believe that our mission to provide meaningful employment for men and women with disabilities is worthy of your support.

In return, we pledge to you that the money you generously share with us will be used in the most powerful way possible to change lives.

If you would like to make a donation, please contact our office at 405-348-4470.

Thank you.